Learning how to love yourself can be a difficult task. Most people are taught from a young age that self-love is selfish. Sometimes we just need a little help and direction on how to love ourselves as much as we love others.
I’m on this journey right there with you!
Accept the fact that you are your own person
You can’t be anyone else, and you can’t force yourself to change who you are. But that’s actually a good thing—it means that if you want to learn to love yourself, it’s going to have to come from inside of you, not from any external source. That’s why it’s so important for us to learn how to accept ourselves as we are and appreciate our strengths and weaknesses.
Talk positively to yourself
You may not think it, but you’re your own biggest critic. You’re always telling yourself that you aren’t good enough or that you need to improve, but the truth is that you are amazing just as you are. So next time a negative thought pops into your head, tell yourself instead how great you are!
Let go of the toxic people in your life and focus on being happy with just you, for you
There are millions of people in the world who are ready to love and accept you for exactly who you are, and there’s no reason to spend your time pining over someone else when there are so many more deserving people out there waiting for a chance to show you how much they care about you.
Take a compliment
When someone gives you a compliment, don’t brush it off or make excuses. Accept it, and be grateful for it! The more you accept compliments, the easier it will become to believe them yourself.
Stop comparing yourself to others
We all do it. It’s practically a human instinct. But it can be so damaging for your self-esteem and your relationships with other people when you’re always looking at them and wishing you were like them.
It’s important to remember that just because someone else is taller or shorter than you, or has a different hair color, or likes different music than you do, or thinks differently about things, that doesn’t make them better or worse than you! It just makes them different. And that’s okay!
They are a part of the world and they deserve love just as much as anyone else does. So next time you catch yourself feeling jealous of someone else, try reminding yourself of this fact instead: everyone deserves love; even if they’re not exactly like me!
Go Easy On Yourself
It’s hard to love yourself when you’re constantly beating yourself up, right? So work on being kinder to yourself. That doesn’t mean you don’t set high standards for yourself or that you reward yourself with something small like a piece of chocolate every time you do something good—it means that even when things go wrong, you can accept that as part of life and try again. And if something good happens, don’t let it go to your head—just appreciate it fully and then move on.
You are not the thoughts in your head
This is a very important fact to remember as you learn to love yourself. You are not the thoughts that run through your head, and you don’t have to be defined by them.
It’s easy to get caught up in the idea that we are our thoughts and feelings—especially if those thoughts and feelings have been negative for a long time. But it’s important to remember that these things can change, and soon enough, you’ll find yourself looking back on them with a laugh at how silly they seemed at the time!
Write down all the things you like about yourself
1. Start small.
Don’t try to write down every single thing you like about yourself. Just start with a few things that come to mind, and make sure they’re not just “I’m smart” or “I’m pretty.” Try to say something more specific, like “I’m good at making people laugh,” or “I’m really good at cooking.”
2. Add details
Start with the basics, but then add more details to make it feel more real: “My favorite color is blue, and I love how it looks on me!” or “I have a dog named Lucky who is always happy to see me.”
3. Remember what makes you special
When you find yourself feeling down on yourself, remember all of the things that make you special—they’ll help keep you going!
Remember – learning to love yourself might not happen overnight
Loving yourself is an ongoing process, one that takes time, patience, and strength; however, this is a worthwhile goal that everyone should strive for. Trust me, I’m a work in progress myself!